She Kept Waiting for Permission. Then She Built Her Own Table.
Women leaving jobs to start a business are often carrying more than ambition. They carry survival patterns, self-doubt, urgency, and the pressure to build something better without repeating the chaos they came from.
Azekah came into this conversation and named something a lot of women feel when they’re trying to trust themselves and build something of their own:
Sometimes chaos is not just around you.
At other times, it lives in what you learned.
In many cases, the hardest part is not leaving.
Instead, it’s believing you can build differently once you do.
That is what made this episode land.
A lot of women know they want more.
They also know when they are being minimized.
They feel the projections.
And they are forced to keep shrinking in rooms they have already outgrown.
But knowing you need to go is one thing.
Trusting yourself enough to move is another.
That is the tension Azekah names in this conversation.
She talks about what it looked like to move from a male-dominated trade into entrepreneurship.
She also explains how chaos drivers show up across industries and identities.
And most importantly, she breaks down why building your own table starts with learning to stop abandoning your own instincts.
In this episode, we talk about avoidant attachment in leadership and mind chatter.
We also unpack the weight of childhood survival patterns.
And we name why asking for help can feel so hard.
Most importantly, we explore what it means to build a business without recreating the same chaos you were trying to escape.
Azekah also shares how self-reflection changed the way she leads.
She explains why unplugging is a real practice.
And she shows how trusting yourself becomes the first real step toward wholeness-centered entrepreneurship.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS:
- 09:54 — “I’m learning that I have an avoidant attachment style.”not a bad thing.”
Azekah names how self-awareness changed the way she understands conflict, leadership, and the relationships she was holding onto longer than she should have.
- 22:34 — “I have a strong immigrant mother… and a lot of the reasons that I go so hard is because I’ve seen another woman go so hard.”
A clear naming of how childhood, family modeling, and survival culture shape urgency, overwork, and the pressure women carry into entrepreneurship.
- 32:49 — “Find 10 cooks and go build your own kitchen.”
The closing truth of the episode: stop waiting for permission, stop buying into scarcity, and build with people who have real vision.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
If you’ve been sitting in an environment that feels off, second-guessing your instincts, or trying to build something new without repeating the same chaos you came from, this is your reminder that trusting yourself is part of the work.
The Protect Yourself from the Ego-Driven Manager Roadmap will help you recognize unhealthy dynamics, understand what you’re navigating, and move with more clarity when the energy around you feels unstable, manipulative, or misaligned.
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- She Don’t Work Like That No More™ Membership
- The Protect Yourself from the Ego-Driven Manager Roadmap
- Leading Without Burning Out: A Spotlight Survival Guide
HERE ARE THE 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- Trusting yourself is a business skill. Azekah makes it plain: when something feels off, pay attention. Women are often taught to override their instincts, explain away red flags, or stay too long in spaces that already showed them the truth. This episode is a reminder that self-trust is strategy.
- You can leave one unhealthy system and still recreate its patterns. Changing jobs, industries, or titles does not automatically heal the nervous system. Without reflection, support, and real self-awareness, it is easy to bring urgency, avoidance, and survival behaviors into the very business you hoped would free you.
- Collaboration is not weakness. Scarcity is not the only model. One of the strongest lines in this episode is Azekah’s reminder to go find 10 cooks and build your own kitchen. You do not have to shrink, compete, or do everything alone to build something meaningful.
MORE FROM AZEKAH
- Instagram: @carobtouch
- Website: Carib Touch
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She Don’t Work Like That No More™ started as a podcast but it’s become a space people come back to when they realize something isn’t sitting right anymore. It’s where we name the patterns burnout, overfunctioning, disappearing into roles and tell the truth about what it costs to keep performing your way through your own life. No quick fixes. No pretending. Just real conversations that help you see yourself clearly, sometimes for the first time.
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