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Baby, you already said it in the comments. Come say it in the room.
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The comments

The comments were already a room. We made it private.

We are exhausted! 😩★Girl this!★Facts★I did★Exactly★Well that's accurate.★We are exhausted! 😩★Girl this!★Facts★I did★Exactly★Well that's accurate.★

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AAnonymous

“Currently living this, and it's exhausting!”

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NNorlander replied

“If you just need space for someone to listen, no judgment my DMs are open. I've been there, and I know how heavy it gets. Because honestly, it literally feels like you're fighting psychological warfare some days. You don't have to carry it alone.”

JAnonymous

“I'm glad someone said it! We are exhausted!!”

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NNorlander replied

“Sis, I feel that deep 😮·💨 What's been the heaviest part of that exhaustion for you lately?”

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ACommenter replied

“Taking on extra projects and helping when others slack. I've finally start saying "No" and starting implementing boundaries, and I've been called less engaged. 🥴”

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NNorlander replied

“Exactly! They preach 'work-life balance' until you actually try to have one. 🙄. That flip-flop is straight up gaslighting, and it keeps people burnt out on purpose.”

TAnonymous

“🎯 This was right on target for my situation especially after recieving a write up for made up guidelines that were put into place by my management.”

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NNorlander replied

“Wow, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that...being written up for made-up guidelines is such a classic narcissistic culture control move. 💯 How have you been holding up mentally?”

SAnonymous

“Let me save this so I can attach to my resignation when the day comes! 😩”

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NNorlander replied

“Make sure you highlight the "silent followers" part for extra drama! 💅🏾😩”

NAnonymous

“I have been trying to get employment for 6 months with a professional license for 18 years apparently I'm unhirable”

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CAnonymous

“I wished I could like this 7000 times”

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NNorlander replied

“Whewww you sound like you've SEEN some things 👀”

WAnonymous

“We are exhausted! 😩”

MAnonymous

“Baby when I tell you!! You hit the nail on the head with this one!!!!”

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NNorlander replied

“Whewww it needed to be said... and I said it LOUD!!”

RAnonymous

“All the above! Thank you”

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NNorlander replied

“🙏🏾 ..... What's one thing you wish workplaces would change tomorrow to ease that weight?”

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ACommenter replied

“...Promote me to supervisor vs their friends, spouses, and relatives. Hire ppl that know how to talk to ppl and have experience in handling the challenges of our business.”

KAnonymous

“Howwwwwww did I stumble on this? This describes my supervisor EXACTLY! WOW”

♥ 6
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NNorlander replied

“Oop... sounds like a story we NEED to hear 👀👀”

DAnonymous

“Mine plot and schemed to find a way to write me up to fire me over something I didn't truly have control over. But God is good. I won my unemployment claim in the end.”

♥ 2
LAnonymous

“Nah lol i had an employer try to get me to work for free too, i left so damn fast 😂”

♥ 7
BAnonymous

“Bbbbaaaabbbbbbyyyyyyyy!!!!!! When you open up IG and THIS is the first post you see! The tea is HOT this morning 🫖🫖🫖🫖”

♥ 10
AAnonymous

“Currently living this, and it's exhausting!”

♥ 265
AReply
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NNorlander replied

“If you just need space for someone to listen, no judgment my DMs are open. I've been there, and I know how heavy it gets. Because honestly, it literally feels like you're fighting psychological warfare some days. You don't have to carry it alone.”

JAnonymous

“I'm glad someone said it! We are exhausted!!”

AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Sis, I feel that deep 😮·💨 What's been the heaviest part of that exhaustion for you lately?”

AReply
AReply
ACommenter replied

“Taking on extra projects and helping when others slack. I've finally start saying "No" and starting implementing boundaries, and I've been called less engaged. 🥴”

AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Exactly! They preach 'work-life balance' until you actually try to have one. 🙄. That flip-flop is straight up gaslighting, and it keeps people burnt out on purpose.”

TAnonymous

“🎯 This was right on target for my situation especially after recieving a write up for made up guidelines that were put into place by my management.”

♥ 6
AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Wow, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that...being written up for made-up guidelines is such a classic narcissistic culture control move. 💯 How have you been holding up mentally?”

SAnonymous

“Let me save this so I can attach to my resignation when the day comes! 😩”

♥ 2
AReply
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NNorlander replied

“Make sure you highlight the "silent followers" part for extra drama! 💅🏾😩”

NAnonymous

“I have been trying to get employment for 6 months with a professional license for 18 years apparently I'm unhirable”

♥ 7
CAnonymous

“I wished I could like this 7000 times”

♥ 4
AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Whewww you sound like you've SEEN some things 👀”

WAnonymous

“We are exhausted! 😩”

MAnonymous

“Baby when I tell you!! You hit the nail on the head with this one!!!!”

♥ 281
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Whewww it needed to be said... and I said it LOUD!!”

RAnonymous

“All the above! Thank you”

AReply
NNorlander replied

“🙏🏾 ..... What's one thing you wish workplaces would change tomorrow to ease that weight?”

AReply
ACommenter replied

“...Promote me to supervisor vs their friends, spouses, and relatives. Hire ppl that know how to talk to ppl and have experience in handling the challenges of our business.”

KAnonymous

“Howwwwwww did I stumble on this? This describes my supervisor EXACTLY! WOW”

♥ 6
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Oop... sounds like a story we NEED to hear 👀👀”

DAnonymous

“Mine plot and schemed to find a way to write me up to fire me over something I didn't truly have control over. But God is good. I won my unemployment claim in the end.”

♥ 2
LAnonymous

“Nah lol i had an employer try to get me to work for free too, i left so damn fast 😂”

♥ 7
BAnonymous

“Bbbbaaaabbbbbbyyyyyyyy!!!!!! When you open up IG and THIS is the first post you see! The tea is HOT this morning 🫖🫖🫖🫖”

♥ 10
MAnonymous

“Baby when I tell you!! You hit the nail on the head with this one!!!!”

♥ 281
AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Whewww it needed to be said... and I said it LOUD!!”

RAnonymous

“All the above! Thank you”

AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“🙏🏾 ..... What's one thing you wish workplaces would change tomorrow to ease that weight?”

AReply
AReply
ACommenter replied

“...Promote me to supervisor vs their friends, spouses, and relatives. Hire ppl that know how to talk to ppl and have experience in handling the challenges of our business.”

KAnonymous

“Howwwwwww did I stumble on this? This describes my supervisor EXACTLY! WOW”

♥ 6
AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Oop... sounds like a story we NEED to hear 👀👀”

DAnonymous

“Mine plot and schemed to find a way to write me up to fire me over something I didn't truly have control over. But God is good. I won my unemployment claim in the end.”

♥ 2
LAnonymous

“Nah lol i had an employer try to get me to work for free too, i left so damn fast 😂”

♥ 7
BAnonymous

“Bbbbaaaabbbbbbyyyyyyyy!!!!!! When you open up IG and THIS is the first post you see! The tea is HOT this morning 🫖🫖🫖🫖”

♥ 10
AAnonymous

“Currently living this, and it's exhausting!”

♥ 265
AReply
NNorlander replied

“If you just need space for someone to listen, no judgment my DMs are open. I've been there, and I know how heavy it gets. Because honestly, it literally feels like you're fighting psychological warfare some days. You don't have to carry it alone.”

JAnonymous

“I'm glad someone said it! We are exhausted!!”

AReply
NNorlander replied

“Sis, I feel that deep 😮·💨 What's been the heaviest part of that exhaustion for you lately?”

AReply
ACommenter replied

“Taking on extra projects and helping when others slack. I've finally start saying "No" and starting implementing boundaries, and I've been called less engaged. 🥴”

AReply
NNorlander replied

“Exactly! They preach 'work-life balance' until you actually try to have one. 🙄. That flip-flop is straight up gaslighting, and it keeps people burnt out on purpose.”

TAnonymous

“🎯 This was right on target for my situation especially after recieving a write up for made up guidelines that were put into place by my management.”

♥ 6
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Wow, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that...being written up for made-up guidelines is such a classic narcissistic culture control move. 💯 How have you been holding up mentally?”

SAnonymous

“Let me save this so I can attach to my resignation when the day comes! 😩”

♥ 2
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Make sure you highlight the "silent followers" part for extra drama! 💅🏾😩”

NAnonymous

“I have been trying to get employment for 6 months with a professional license for 18 years apparently I'm unhirable”

♥ 7
CAnonymous

“I wished I could like this 7000 times”

♥ 4
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Whewww you sound like you've SEEN some things 👀”

WAnonymous

“We are exhausted! 😩”

MAnonymous

“Baby when I tell you!! You hit the nail on the head with this one!!!!”

♥ 281
AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Whewww it needed to be said... and I said it LOUD!!”

RAnonymous

“All the above! Thank you”

AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“🙏🏾 ..... What's one thing you wish workplaces would change tomorrow to ease that weight?”

AReply
AReply
ACommenter replied

“...Promote me to supervisor vs their friends, spouses, and relatives. Hire ppl that know how to talk to ppl and have experience in handling the challenges of our business.”

KAnonymous

“Howwwwwww did I stumble on this? This describes my supervisor EXACTLY! WOW”

♥ 6
AReply
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Oop... sounds like a story we NEED to hear 👀👀”

DAnonymous

“Mine plot and schemed to find a way to write me up to fire me over something I didn't truly have control over. But God is good. I won my unemployment claim in the end.”

♥ 2
LAnonymous

“Nah lol i had an employer try to get me to work for free too, i left so damn fast 😂”

♥ 7
BAnonymous

“Bbbbaaaabbbbbbyyyyyyyy!!!!!! When you open up IG and THIS is the first post you see! The tea is HOT this morning 🫖🫖🫖🫖”

♥ 10
AAnonymous

“Currently living this, and it's exhausting!”

♥ 265
AReply
NNorlander replied

“If you just need space for someone to listen, no judgment my DMs are open. I've been there, and I know how heavy it gets. Because honestly, it literally feels like you're fighting psychological warfare some days. You don't have to carry it alone.”

JAnonymous

“I'm glad someone said it! We are exhausted!!”

AReply
NNorlander replied

“Sis, I feel that deep 😮·💨 What's been the heaviest part of that exhaustion for you lately?”

AReply
ACommenter replied

“Taking on extra projects and helping when others slack. I've finally start saying "No" and starting implementing boundaries, and I've been called less engaged. 🥴”

AReply
NNorlander replied

“Exactly! They preach 'work-life balance' until you actually try to have one. 🙄. That flip-flop is straight up gaslighting, and it keeps people burnt out on purpose.”

TAnonymous

“🎯 This was right on target for my situation especially after recieving a write up for made up guidelines that were put into place by my management.”

♥ 6
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Wow, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that...being written up for made-up guidelines is such a classic narcissistic culture control move. 💯 How have you been holding up mentally?”

SAnonymous

“Let me save this so I can attach to my resignation when the day comes! 😩”

♥ 2
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Make sure you highlight the "silent followers" part for extra drama! 💅🏾😩”

NAnonymous

“I have been trying to get employment for 6 months with a professional license for 18 years apparently I'm unhirable”

♥ 7
CAnonymous

“I wished I could like this 7000 times”

♥ 4
AReply
NNorlander replied

“Whewww you sound like you've SEEN some things 👀”

WAnonymous

“We are exhausted! 😩”

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“Baby when I tell you!! You hit the nail on the head with this one!!!”

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